Wednesday, February 29, 2012

I Run

Or maybe I Ran would be a more appropriate title. I wouldn't call myself a runner, afterall, I've only run twice, but I can say with confidence that I did run and hope to do it some more. The first day I ran about 2 miles and the second day I ran 3 miles and I ran, like didn't walk (okay, I walked once the first day, but only for 2 or 3 minutes). We are blessed to have a trail head leading to acres of forest very close to our house so the possibilities are endless. I am also blessed with an incredible neighbor who watched my children so that I could run.

In the interest of full disclosure, I've always despised running for running's sake. Give me a ball to chase and I'm in, but to run just because? No, thanks. Or at least that's how I felt back in the day when I could poo solo and speak with other adults without hearing "Mom" a dozen times. Yes, back in the day running was work. Now, those quiet mornings on the trails - yes all two of them - are more reminiscent of vacation, giving me time to breathe, albeit heavily, and to retreat into myself. It's a time when I can worry only about taking care of me, which I believe will help me to be a better mother, wife, friend, doula and certainly a better woman.

This newfound hobby has also inspired me to create something using one of my other hobbies, sewing. You see, I have to carry a trail map and my phone when I run so that if my directionally challenged self should suddenly become lost and all the trees look the same (I'm a landmark kinda gal), I'd be able to make a desperate call for help. So, while I completely understand the practicality of the fanny pack, as a child of the 80's I just cannot wave the white flag and surrender to this method of toting necessities. Hopefully I'll get this fanny pack alternative put together soon and, if it works the way I imagine it will, I'll post a tutorial soon.

So, it has actually been two weeks since I ran. Will I continue? I don't know. It's hard to find time with three kids and our other responsibilities (only a few of which I mention in this post). I do know that I felt stronger, more confident and even happier after I ran. I think just knowing that I can do it makes me feel better about myself. Hopefully I will be able to find time to fit running into my life, at least occasionally. It's just one more piece of the puzzle, also known as me.

Monday, February 27, 2012

"The Apples In One Seed": Part I (aka The Hubby's Birth Day)

A blog titled Birthing Me would not be complete without the occasional birth story. To honor the members of our family I thought it might be fun to tell their birth story on their birth day. So, today is my husband's birthday and to properly tell his story I contacted the woman who knows it best - his mama, aka Grandma Chris. In true Chris fashion she put her all into delivering the story I requested and it is a story. So, without further delay please give a warm welcome to first-time-guest-blogger Grandma Chris.

From the moment that I learned I was pregnant in the summer of 1979, I knew I was embarking on a journey that would be emotionally, medically, and financially challenging. What I did not know then that I do know now is how that difficult and often lonely and heartbreaking journey would change me, strengthen me, deepen me, and become the greatest love story of my life.

My husband and I met in 1975 as graduate students at Michigan State University (MSU) and were married on June 11, 1977. Unfortunately by June 1979 when I learned I was pregnant, there were already significant problems in our marriage. The reality of an unexpected pregnancy magnified to me the reality of our marriage: my husband did not want a baby, nor did he want me as his wife. I was devastated. My dream of a loving husband encouraging and supporting me through a potentially difficult pregnancy was crumbling. I agonized about whether it was even in my child's best interests to bring him or her into this world. I sought advice from several medical professionals who educated me about the special challenges and risks of pregnancy in diabetic women. (I had developed Type I insulin-dependent diabetes in 1973 and needed several daily injections of insulin plus a strict diet and exercise regimen.) I continued to see a marriage counselor, although after several sessions, my husband had refused to participate any further. The focus of my counseling shifted to how I would manage a high-risk pregnancy and child-rearing as a single parent.

At perhaps my lowest moment, I received a message of encouragement and faith in the form of a stained glass apple inscribed with the words "Any man can count the number of seeds in one apple, but only God can count the number of apples in one seed." I suddenly realized that my doctors and therapists and I had only been counting the obvious difficulties and challenges that I was facing. I knew I needed instead to believe that there were countless ways, yet unseen, in which this baby, this child, this person, would make a difference in my life and the lives of everyone he or she encountered.

From that day forward, I committed myself to the journey of single parenthood with faith, love, and positive thoughts. Almost immediately circumstances changed for me. I was contacted and enrolled in a research project at MSU Medical College involving pregnant diabetic women. The equipment and monitoring that was provided to me at no cost were a true blessing. I was able to frequently test my blood sugar levels at home and adjust my insulin needs accordingly. Medical professionals monitored me closely and were available by phone for any questions or problems that I had.

I began to marvel at the changes in my body and the miracle of the life growing inside of me. The week of my 27th birthday (October 15) I felt the first detectable flutters of movement. It was an indescribable moment that moved me to tears. I read and studied everything I could about pregnancy and childbirth and especially the spe
cial concerns of being a diabetic mother. I hoped I could have as normal and natural a delivery as possible.

On the advice of my doctors, I resigned from my full-time job to better care for myself. I also made plans to move back to Wisconsin where I would have the love and support of my family and friends. In early November 1979 my father flew to Lansing to
help me pack my car and a trailer and drive me back to Wisconsin.

Soon after returning to the Eau Claire area I met with my family doctor and an OB/GYN doctor who both were willing to monitor my pregnancy so that I could continue to participate in the MSU research study. For the most part things went smoothly. I did have two short hospitilizations in my third trimester: one for blood sugar problems due to a stomach flu and the other because I'd developed pre-eclampsia. I learned from my OB doctor that the babies of diabetic women often die in the 39th and 40th week of pregnancy for reasons that were unknown at that time. Therefore it was standard practice to induce labor or do a C-section several weeks before the mother's due date. However, if delivered too early, the baby's lungs may not be fully developed and the baby could have serious respiratory p
roblems. To avoid this, an amniocentesis procedure could be done to measure how well the lungs were developed. On February 19, 1980, I had the first amniocentesis. The test result was close to the desired level but my doctor felt it best to go one more week. The next amniocentesis was done on February 26. I remember the doctor taking one look at my huge belly that day and declaring, "Looks like it's time to get this duck out of the oven!"

The test revealed my baby's lungs were developed enough for life outside the womb. Because of the position of the baby, the doctor felt it best to deliver by C-section and arrangements were made for me to check into the hospital that evening and have surgery early the next day.

I had read about and prepared myself mentally for a C-section. Although I regretted not having a natural delivery, I knew it was more important to bring my baby as safely as possible into the world, given my diabetes. I was planning to have a spinal anesthetic so that I could be awake and be able to see my baby as soon as he or she was born. The evening of February 26, 1980, I checked into the hospital, had numerous blood tests performed, and preparations for surgery at 8AM the next morning.

That night I found it difficult to get to sleep. I was feeling so many emotions - mostly excitement and joy, but also anxiety and fear about the surgery and my baby's health. I even felt a sort of sadness about the pregnancy ending. It had been such an incredible experience and I felt a very strong bond with this mysterious and yet very familiar being living and growing and tumbling around inside of me. I prayed for strength and guidance and wisdom for the months and years ahead and made a promise to my baby that night to be the best mother that I could be.

Thanks, Grandma Chris! We look forward to part II! I'm thankful for the choices she made that brought my wonderful husband into this world. It sounds like it was a time of much reflection and meditation. Raising kids is challenging with two parents so I can only imagine the challenges she faced as a single parent, but she raised an incredible man and should be very proud of herself and of him.

Happy Birth Day, Babe and goodnight.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Pudding Paint - a shout out to my mom

Neat-freaks beware: this WILL get messy. I prepared my boys, one messy one neat, by disrobing them. An art smock would work also, but chillin' in unders-only is way more fun!

Can you tell which one is messy and which one is neat?

Credit for this fun activity goes to my mom. She's notorious for being crazy super fun when it comes to all things kids. There's an infamous story in our family that involves a kiddie pool in the living room, but that's a story for another day. So, on an afternoon where the kids were particularly restless I channeled a bit of dear 'ol mom and busted out the pudding paint.

Instant pudding - vanilla, chocolate and any other fun flavors
Wax paper
Small bowls
Food coloring (optional)

Prepare pudding as directed. Add food coloring to vanilla pudding to make lots of fun colors. While pudding sets, tape the wax paper to the counter to make clean up easier. Once pudding is set, divide into small bowls for each child. Now for the fun part. Encourage your children to finger paint with the pudding. We, as parents, spend a lot of time teaching our children manners, especially table manners, which is a good thing, but you may be surprised by their hesitation towards sticking their cute little fingers into their pudding. I expected E, my 2-year-old, to dig right in, as he does with most other things, but even he waited for the go-ahead. So I reached in, scooped up a handful, and plopped it on the wax paper and began to finger paint. Cue memory sequence. I couldn't help letting my mind wander to our little table where I sat as a child with my mother and brother and finger painted with pudding. And then I remembered sharing this activity with kids that I babysat when I was a teenager.

Ahhh, ok, back to reality. Finger painting with pudding has many upsides, least of which is that you can eat it. Yes, most (let's hope all) finger paints are non-toxic, but do we really want our children eating whatever undisclosed ingredients are in that stuff? I think not. We did lots of what Lou, my 4-year-old, calls "scribble scrabbling", which means a bunch of random nonsense and then we also used it for practicing letters and words.

These are letters I "painted" since Lou refused to let me photograph his, which were much more fun and artistic.

We didn't use food coloring this time, so we just had brown and cream, but we had a lot of fun! You could also use paint brushes or other painting supplies. So at our house we finger paint with pudding. What fun painting ideas do you have?

Artsy Play Wednesday with Capri +3

Friday, February 24, 2012

The Birth of a Blog

Welcome to Birthing Me! I'm just a stay-at-home mom to three wee ones under the age of four, which means that I spend my days wiping poop and tears, preparing meals and snacks, finding creative ways to learn, baby-proofing (and kissing and bandaging boo boos when it fails) , juggling play dates, rationalizing with non-rational mini teenagers, cleaning a house that will never be completely clean, organizing and reorganizing to make space for us in our small house, helping run our small business and enjoying every minute - ok not every minute, but we have a good time and lots of love and laughter.

In my "spare time" (is there really such a thing?) I enjoying sewing, crafting, spending time with my hubby and finding my place as a birth doula in my city's amazing birth community. Oh, and I serve on the board of an incredible non-profit. So I'm over-loved and under-slept - is that a phrase? It is to my sleep deprived brain. I don't need more hours in the day, but a few more at night for some needed zzzz's couldn't hurt. This is my first attempt at blogging (please be kind). I intend for it to be a place to document my journey, share some fun ideas, and hopefully learn a little something about myself. Thanks for joining me!